Reading for Treasure
If I had a dime for every fictional heroine who had a self-proclaimed “unfashionable” feature, I’d be wealthier than Bill Gates. Heck if I had a penny for every woman who bemoaned her features and wished for a different body, I’d be wealthier than Bill and the Queen of England—combined!
The list of supposed flaws includes:
- Hips that are too wide or too narrow
- Breasts that are too small or too large
- Hair too curly or too straight
- Being too tall or too short
- Lips too thin or too full
- Nose too long or too “pert” and turned up
- Eyes too wide set. (This is the sole trend breaker—ho heroic character ever has eyes too close together. That’s reserved for villains.)
If you read long enough, you’ll conclude that no heroine fits the “fashionable average” mold. But they all show inner strength, find happiness and are beautiful in the eyes of at least one other character (usually the love interest).
In real life, few people fit the “fashionable average” mold either. As my sister says: people are like plants—all different but all beautiful. To capitalize on our individuality, whether you learn it early or late in life, it’s important to find—and stick with—the styles, colors and adornments that perfectly display your beauty.
Fashions change—but we needn’t be slaves to fashion. If ruffles are all the rage, but you look better in clean simple lines—stick with simple lines! If bold orange is the hot new color trend and you look better in pastels—you guessed it—stick to your style. You won’t fit in, but that’s OK. It’s better than OK. You’ll stand out like a Lilly in a field of Forget-Me-Nots. (Don’t EVER think you’re sticking out like a sore thumb!)
Being true to your style accomplishes several things:
- It accentuates your positive features and camouflages the features you don’t like (and we all have ‘em)
- It helps you grow comfortable in your own body, which increases your confidence.
- Confidence attracts people to you. Positive interactions with others builds even more confidence, and a cycle of positive energy results.
So the next time you see a fashion magazine or step into a store and thin you are too __(Fill in the blank)__ to fit in—take a lesson from a heroine: be true to your style and dare to stand out!